Many people like to think they know everything about sex – including how their partners experience it. But there’s usually something extra to learn, and, rather than being a punch to the ego, that’s actually a good thing. Becoming aware of research into sex trends can equip a man with the knowledge he needs to improve his sexual experiences – both for himself and possibly his lover. In addition to maintaining penis health, educating oneself about the latest sex facts is an important component of sexual wellbeing.
About 85% of men in one survey said their partners achieved orgasm during their last sexual encounter; only 64% of women reported reaching climax. This discrepancy may be attributed to men’s reluctance to admit their partners didn’t orgasm, but some of it is likely honest confusion – many men mistake a partner’s pleasurable moans and movements for an orgasm when that’s not actually what’s happening. Communication is key here.
General Orgasm Discrepancy
In one study, 75% of men reported regularly reaching the big finish in their sex lives; only half of women could say the same.
Researchers found that 30% of women surveyed reported that they find sex to be painful. While some soreness is bound to result from a long or rough session, this high number indicates that something else might be going on.
Men receive more oral sex than women – and the gap is widest for women in their 30’s. Seventy-eight percent of men in this age group reported receiving oral in the last year, compared to only 59% of women. Get those tongues moving, guys!
What can be gleaned from these studies? When it comes to sex, women tend to give more than they get. Orgasm is typically more difficult for women to reach, and some may be just fine with not getting there every time. But here are a few general tips for men who want to maximize their partners’ pleasure – something any man should have in mind:
– Mix up the activities. It’s easier for many women to climax if sex involves variety. And one important ingredient in this, for some women, is oral. If a man is self-conscious about licking his lady, he can feel free to ask how she likes it, and to check in as he goes. Never be too proud to ask – she’ll likely appreciate the attention to her enjoyment. And, since every woman is different, it in no way reflects poorly on a man’s skill or experience.
– Think she had an orgasm? Ask to be sure. If that gets old, consider asking her to announce when she’s about to finish. This can be a big turn-on for a man, and a woman may get a thrill out of saying the words. And, of course, it lets a man know what’s really going on!
– Make sure she’s not in pain. Using adequate lubrication can help here – even if she tends to be quite wet, having a product on hand in case she starts to dry out is a good idea. Don’t be afraid to check in and make sure she’s comfortable – some people hesitate to say when they are not enjoying something or are feeling pain in the heat of the moment, and opening up the door now and then can help her express herself more easily.
When a woman’s pleasure is as central to sexual activity as a man’s, a couple may find itself engaging in more frequent sex. While that’s a great thing indeed, it can take a toll on the penis – particularly the penis skin. Lubrication will help protect against friction and chafing. So will the daily use of a penis health creme (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil). Man1 Man Oil contains both Shea butter and vitamin E, two excellent natural moisturizers. When it comes to lotion, it’s best to go for something made for the penis, since hand and body creams may be too harsh for the delicate male skin. Take good care of the manhood so it is ready to go for the next romp.